Archive for May 11th, 2005

From (where else?) New York Magazine:

Though there’s a widespread myth that to be divorced and middle-aged is to be a citizen of Loserville, nothing could be further from the truth. Young people might think they are the only ones out there having casual encounters, but it turns out the most enthusiastic sex freaks these days are the newly single thirty- and fortysomethings who are reentering the dating world with a gusto they’ve never known before.

“Jefferson,” 41, is a divorced father of three whose marriage ended when he took a three-day business trip to the Middle East that his wife was opposed to. These days, he’s living three separate lives: father, bachelor, and swinger. Half the week, he’s taking care of his kids. The other half, he goes out with friends or on dates with what he calls “vanilla” women. And twice a month, he hosts orgies at his apartment for a group of men and women he met on the swingers scene.

“After I got married, I was monogamous and heterosexual and did all the things you’re supposed to do,” says Jefferson, who blogs his adventures at onelifetaketwo.blogspot.com. “Then it didn’t pan out and I returned to my premarried life, to someone I actually was. I can be polygamous and bisexual, do all the stuff I did when I was in my mid-teens. I don’t want to put all my stock in this one other person.”

I can understand decompressing from a bad relationship, but this is a hell of a swing in the other direction. I can only imagine why his wife ended things. If the guy’s true disposition was to host bisexual orgies it seems to me that he was a poor candidate for marriage to begin with.



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